Motivated by independence, self reliance, rejection, lack of trust, or the constant reminder of irresponsibility; some women is forced to take on what the man chooses not to. Picture it: love without trust. You can't share in real love without trust and even if you tried there is always that feeling of not relying on the person you love. I have witnessed this time and time again...too many women taking on the role of a man, not because they want to but because they HAVE to. I mean, granted...it really takes good, sound judgment to know who you're allowing to be a leader in your child's life. Love doesn't always acknowledge logic...love desires acceptance. Why does the children have to suffer though? When will strategically thinking about how the kids will be impacted by the "example of a leader" in their home that they can trust (along with you) be a standard in choosing who is best for you?
These are the things I think about as I decide on giving my future husband the right to choose me. My prayer for my future husband is that he is more responsible than I am. I recently heard a good point made regarding why women feel the need to take on a man's responsibilities: "We feel the need to lead because we're so busy trying to work hard to be equal with men. We break our backs trying to take on so much that we don't even have time to take care of our children." What if we showed a man that we needed him? In return, our need was taken as us being weak? Who wants to go down that road? After all, it all depends on the man...right? Who YOU allowed to choose YOU? I think women have more power than we think: when it comes to allowing men to be leaders in our lives. It's really something that each woman has to think about for herself.
I've personally come to the conclusion that God must be who I rely on. No man, independence, self reliance is enough to show me what God has for me. My children could be lead by the direction of an imperfect being...I mean after all, I've had the experience of allowing guys in my life not realizing that I had poor judgment about the men in my life at the time. After that, God gave me one standard to add to my list which was that my husband be Christian...later on He would add : that his heart would be broken and molded by the love of Christ. This sounds like a lot but if God said it then there must be purpose in it. If God raises my standards then I must think back and remember what He thought of my prayer request: that my future husband is more responsible than me. When you think back about what you really want for your family, future, life...does your actions/restrictions/standards align with your prayers? A question only you and God can answer...
These are the things I think about as I decide on giving my future husband the right to choose me. My prayer for my future husband is that he is more responsible than I am. I recently heard a good point made regarding why women feel the need to take on a man's responsibilities: "We feel the need to lead because we're so busy trying to work hard to be equal with men. We break our backs trying to take on so much that we don't even have time to take care of our children." What if we showed a man that we needed him? In return, our need was taken as us being weak? Who wants to go down that road? After all, it all depends on the man...right? Who YOU allowed to choose YOU? I think women have more power than we think: when it comes to allowing men to be leaders in our lives. It's really something that each woman has to think about for herself.
I've personally come to the conclusion that God must be who I rely on. No man, independence, self reliance is enough to show me what God has for me. My children could be lead by the direction of an imperfect being...I mean after all, I've had the experience of allowing guys in my life not realizing that I had poor judgment about the men in my life at the time. After that, God gave me one standard to add to my list which was that my husband be Christian...later on He would add : that his heart would be broken and molded by the love of Christ. This sounds like a lot but if God said it then there must be purpose in it. If God raises my standards then I must think back and remember what He thought of my prayer request: that my future husband is more responsible than me. When you think back about what you really want for your family, future, life...does your actions/restrictions/standards align with your prayers? A question only you and God can answer...
