6.07.2011

Women in submission: Why man's love for her is just as important

I recently read an article about women leaders who encourage other women to improve their marriages by submitting to their husbands and providing physical satisfaction. OK, I must say that who wouldn't want to agree with this. Right? In every marriage there should be that mindset of wanting to please your significant other. This religion derived concept of women in submission has somehow taken the focus off of a man's role in a marriage within today's society. What I'm saying is one individuals role shouldn't be discussed without acknowledging the importance of the others'. Submission is a commitment and with a woman committing herself to a man should also come with her leadership ability to acknowledge and understand what type of man should be worthy of submission. This is important because if the foundation of that relationship is built on love and lust, but rarely acknowledges God (the creator of the concept) then it becomes a man made form of submission.

I strongly agree with the concept of submission because the bible clearly says wives submit to your husbands and husbands LOVE your wives as Christ loves the church. OK, if you really think about it for a second...clear instruction was given to both individuals. Both individuals have a responsibility. In the man's case he is to love her without reminding her of her wrong doing. He should protect her, be a great example for her and the list goes on. I think if every man sincerely loved a woman who practiced submission then that makes for a successful relationship. If the man didn't know how to love but he expected the woman to submit to him then she will not be happy. On the contrary if a man was loving to a woman who was not submissive, that man may feel less than a leader in his own home that which he is suppose to lead.

Ultimately, this concept should not be taken lightly. The concept of submission takes sacrifice, humbleness, lowliness and a sense of servitude. To submit to an imperfect, perceived to be righteous "because he's a man", and religion claiming individual takes more than a union. It takes both individuals acknowledging that they are both under God. Since they are both under God, then the man should understand submission before he takes on the major responsibility of trying to successfully lead his future generations. It takes for the woman to understand every Godly principle that her husband tries to "sell" her. It's not enough if he says, "This is what God wants for us". She needs to have discernment into Godly standards just as much as he does. That way, when he tells her how she should stay committed to being submissive then she has the wisdom to know when he's being selfish or really being lead by God. Finally, I've learned from experience that most men respect women more when a woman is fearful of God oppose to being fearful of that man.


6.03.2011

Seeing IS believing

Have you ever thought about the functionality of the Programmer? Ok, I feel like I'm sounding like a tech geek..lol...Anyway, The Programmer in today's vast technology is not seen by the final user. Its functionality instructs, and directs any and everything that you see in the world's greatest technology but rarely does anyone give thought into it. Mark Zuckerberg for an example knew what he wanted Facebook to do so he wrote codes to specifically ensure that facebook account holders were able to login, post status updates, accept friend requests and even send email messages.

This is similar to how God works, He is not physically seen by individuals because our human understanding wouldn't even comprehend His existence. This doesn't mean that He can't intervene, redirect, or change the way that our lives plays out. I vividly remember being short about $2,000 for my education during my last year of college. I called my mother and even in my desperation I thought, she was NOT going to help me. After a couple of calls with her in all her sincerity she expressed that she was not going to help pay for my education. She also recommended that I take time off for school and work to save the money. I knew this was NOT an option for me.

At that time I was just beginning to establish my relationship with God and in my doubt, the holy spirit spoke to me and I was reminded of Hebrews 13:5..."God will not leave you nor forsake you." I was at peace and still $2,000 short of paying for my education. I was in the position where graduation was no longer an option for me during that semester. BUT God was still with me and later He showed me that "Seeing IS believing". I had to believe in Him to know that He was going to show up during my unfortunate circumstance. All of my cares and concerns were NOT going to play out in support of my doubts.

I set up a meeting with the Financial Aid Director. She noticed that I didn't receive a grant for my previous study abroad trip that Summer. As I continued to wait, God comforted me and worrying about my education was not an option. Within a week I received a grant from the financial aid office. This was God revealing Himself through my circumstance. He didn't have to show me His physical existence in order to prove His identity but He did have to confirm His word through my hardship. Through this life event and many more God has showed me that I don't need to know when He's going to show up but I do need to believe that He will be in control.